The Pastors Wife (Paperback)Gloria Furman
A reminder to pastor's wives that Christ stands ready to help.
In this uplifting and often humorous book, Gloria Furman offers pastors’ wives a breath of fresh air, reminding readers that Christ stands ready to help regardless of the circumstance—whether it’s late-night counseling sessions, unrealistic expectations about how they spend their time, or complaints about their husbands’ preaching.
Filled with life-giving truth from God's Word, this book will help pastors’ wives joyfully treasure their Savior, love their husbands, and serve their churches.
“This book is a breath of fresh air, not because it’s personal (which it is), or because it’s practical (which it is), but because it is profoundly biblical. We found Gloria’s Scripture-saturated counsel to be eminently realistic and deeply encouraging. Her wit and wisdom will be good for the pastor and good for the pastor’s wife, which is good news for those in ministry and good news for the church.” - Kevin and Trisha DeYoung, Senior Pastor, University Reformed Church, East Lansing, Michigan. Kevin and Trisha have been married for 12 years and have six children.
“Pastor’s wives are deep in the trenches of gospel work. We need biblical truths that meet us there and help us joyfully persevere. Gloria Furman has given us a rich, gospel-saturated resource, drawing our eyes away from any prescribed role and setting them on the one who really does the work.” - Christine Hoover, author, The Church Planting Wife and From Good to Grace
“Make no mistake: your role as a pastor’s wife is essential. Gloria reminds us all to first and foremost drink deeply from the living water of Jesus as we endeavor to humbly fulfill our calling to love our husbands and the body of Christ to whom we have been called.” - Jennifer Carter, wife of Matt Carter, Pastor of Preaching, Austin Stone Community Church, Austin, Texas
“Gloria Furman has given the church a much-needed gift by addressing a group that is often neglected—the wives of pastors. With the power of the gospel, the clarity of Scripture, and personal insight, Gloria helps pastor’s wives to first draw near to Jesus as their greatest need and satisfaction, then to love and support their husbands, and finally to find a healthy place in the local church.” - Joe and Jen Thorn, author, Experiencing the Trinity and Note to Self; Lead Pastor, Redeemer Fellowship, St. Charles, Illinois; and his wife, Jen, blogger, jenthorn.com
“This book reminded me that when I’m weary, Christ’s strength sustains me; when I’m tempted to cave in to expectations, I’m free to love and please Christ above all. Whether you’re a pastor’s wife or military wife or door sweeper’s wife, this book will encourage you to plumb the riches of God’s grace to you in Christ.” - Kristie Anyabwile, wife of Thabiti Anyabwile, Assistant Pastor for Church Planting, Capitol Hill Baptist Church, Washington, DC; mom of three; discipler of women
“Minister’s wives lead unique lives with a unique set of challenges. Gloria does a beautiful job of reminding us that our identity is in Christ and his redemptive blood, not in the way we serve or how much we do for Christ. I felt encouraged and spurred on in my walk with the Lord to look upward to Christ and not at my outward circumstances. This is a very helpful book for minister’s wives anywhere at any stage of life.” - Heather Platt, wife of David Platt, President, International Mission Board; author, Radical
“The pastor’s wife bears unusual responsibility. Though the Bible is completely silent about her role, churches tend to load her with unfair and unrealistic expectation. Gloria Furman brings both sense and hope, showing from the Bible what God does and does not expect from her. And because she looks constantly to the Bible, this is a book that transcends both time and culture. I happily commend this book to pastors, their wives, and their churches.” - Tim Challies, author, The Next Story; blogger, Challies.com
“Gloria Furman gives practical and godly advice to those who are already serving as a pastor’s wife as well as those who are just starting out. Many pastors’ wives feel the pressure to be a person they are not, wanting to be liked by everyone, or struggling with the juggle of family life and service. Gloria draws us to Scripture and back to our first love. The Pastor’s Wife will help you avoid pitfalls and inspire you to stay close to Jesus and to find your strength in him. It reminded me of all I value about being a pastor’s wife.” - Carrie Vibert, wife of Simon Vibert, Vice Principal and Director, The School of Preaching at Wycliffe Hall, Oxford
Table of Contents
Part 1: Loving the Chief Shepherd
“But You’re the Pastor’s Wife”
On Inheriting a Kingdom of Idols and Expectations
Stay Close to Your Shepherd, Little Sheep
Part 2: Loving an Under-Shepherd
On Doing Him Good (and Not Harm)
Undergirding the Overseer
So, You Married the Man Who Marries People
Part 3: Loving the Bride of Christ
What on Earth Is the Church?
Gifted to Give What God Has Given
Weakness Finders and Christ’s Sufficient
Strength for Service
Conclusion: Here Comes the Bridegroom!
About the Author
Gloria Furman is a wife, mother of four, doula, and writer. In 2008 her family moved to the Middle East to plant Redeemer Church of Dubai where her husband, Dave, serves as the pastor. She is the author of Glimpses of Grace, Treasuring Christ When Your Hands Are Full, and The Pastor’s Wife, and blogs regularly at the Gospel Coalition and GloriaFurman.com.
Size127 x 178 mm
Number of Pages144 pp
PublisherGood News Publishers / Crossway Books
“But You’re the
Who am I? Where am I? What am I? Am I supposed to be
playing some sort of role? If so, where did I put that script?
And who wrote the screenplay? When we’re not sure of
these things, we can find ourselves improvising in ways
that are less than satisfying (and even self-destructive).
This chapter lays the foundation and framework for a dis-
cussion on identity by talking about who God is and who
we are according to what the Bible says. Remembering
that we are redeemed sinners who are loved by a holy God
is a message we all need to be regularly reminded of. Our
identity at the most basic and fundamental level is that we
are “in Christ.”
Lost and Then Found in Him:
on “Finding” That Our Identity Is in Christ
You’re probably familiar with the children’s game hide-and-
seek. One of my sons loves this game, but he can’t stand the
suspense of the hunt. He stands somewhere out in the open
and calls, “Here I am. Come get me!” Sometimes I “lose”
my glasses even though they’re right there on my face and
fumble around in the bathroom looking for them. It may be
comical to see a child hide in plain sight or watch someone
rifle through toiletries looking for something they haven’t
lost. But it’s less than humorous to watch Christians forget
that they are “in Christ” and live out of some warped iden-
tity. We wander around like poor, lost sheep, bleating that
nobody loves us; all the while we are actually safe forever in
the arms of our Savior.